In Robert Kegan’s In Over Our Heads, he says “it is a poor school whose favorite students are the ones it does not have to teach.” (page 171). I get what he’s going for, but having lived it, I can also say it’s a poor school whose least favorite students are the ones it does not have to teach. It tends to lead to things like resentfully insisting you do have something to teach the student and forcing them to go through the motions of learning it, or standing in their way when they try to do something they’ll actually learn from. Or an intrusive focus on their personal life.

I feel like the whole concept of favorites is leading people astray here, which is a very Kegan thing to say.