When Did You Learn Your Relationship Dealbreaker?

People who have lived with and subsequently broken up a with a partner you would have married had things gone well: what did you (or they) learn that changed your (their) mind, and how long had you lived together when it was discovered?

Common wisdom is live together for a year before making future plans, but I’m trying to figure out where the inflection points actually are.

Feel free to e-mail (elizabeth-at-this-domain) or comment anonymously if you want to share but don’t want it to be public.

So far I have eight pieces of data from five people, and have an idea about a trend but need more data to confirm it.