Engaging With Reality

Note: publishing this on 4/1 was an accident, I set it to publish “next Monday” without doing the math. Nothing in this was intended as an April Fool’s joke.

Stage 1: Physical Reality is Really Annoying

Recently my job ran out of things for me to do and I went on a break of indeterminate length. This gave me time to do all those things you don’t quite have the blocks of time to do when you’re employed. It turns out I’m a genius at triage and none of these things was worth my time. More specifically…

Backpack with Broken Zipper

The hole was right over the laptop pocket, so this was a pretty big deal, ameliorated only by the fact that I live in California. I got by for a while covering the laptop with paper towels when it rained, but this seemed like a short term solution at best. Otherwise the bag was fine so, so I decided to repair it in a stab against throwaway-culture.

I spent two hours googling and taking it to various shops. Paul’s Shoe Repair in Berkeley finally accepted it and spent a full week being one day from having it repaired. When I finally went in, they told me they found more problems and haven’t fixed any of them. On Facebook, a friend informed me that zippers are notoriously hard to repair. I spent another hour researching backpacks and bought one with a lifetime warranty.

Decorating my Room

$700 and 15 hours later (with one thing yet to do)…. I like it, but it was only worth the time and money because the lack of decoration in my room made my boyfriend sad. It turns out I was correct that the aesthetics of my room just don’t have much impact on my mood. Weirdly, the curtain bar I put up to hang tapestries makes me happier than the actual tapestry.

Dying  Laptop Hinge

I’m old enough to remember when laptops were fragile little babies whose necks you had to cradle to prevent damage. I got a little careless with the way modern harddrives don’t care about being dropped, and forgot that laptops are still physical objects that can break. Eventually clutch cover on my macbook cracked, just a bit. I proceeded to ignore it while part of the cover broke off completely and the hinge lost two screws. This had to be worth repairing- it’s a tiny, mechanical part on an expensive electronic object.

But no, because Apple doesn’t believe in modularity or repairing. There’s no way to just replace the hinge and cover, I’d need an entirely new display, which is $500, plus another $100-$300 in labor, depending on the store. That’s more than half of what the laptop is worth at this point. The third store I took it to replaced a screw, which is not a permanent solution because the data cable is still exposed, but is a significant improvement.

The only consolation here is that I don’t think I made anything worse by waiting. The permanent solution was always going to be an entirely new display.

Dental Crown Replacement

This one I actually did as soon as my dentist recommended it, because as long time readers may remember, I have trigeminal neuralgia ( = a nerve in my jaw is fucked) and I don’t take chances. The neuralgia has been controlled-but-not-cured for a long time: unfortunately the crown was near the neuralgia and the drilling reactivated it, badly. I had forgotten how bad the pain was and how badly it affected me: I have newfound sympathy for 2015!me and some bad decisions she made.

The pain did eventually subside, no thanks to my dentist, who refused to prescribe the harmless, non-addictive medications that help.

Stage 2: Craving

“…and so I resolved to deal with physical reality as little as possible” is the moral I intended to end this post with. The results I’d gotten objectively weren’t worth the time and money I’d poured into them. And yet… I felt better. It was like eating something that tasted bad but contained a micronutrient I was short on.

So I kept going with it. They key thing turned out to not be “physical reality” so much as “doing high friction things.” My life is very, very easy, as long as I stick to certain paths, but that makes leaving the paths daunting. If there’s not an app for it, it’s practically impossible.

So I did my taxes and a budget and a bunch of annoying paperwork, like submitting for reimbursement from my health insurance and moving stock my grandfather gave me as a baby out of my mother’s custody (isn’t aging out of a custodial account totally normal, necessitating a common procedure for it? YES YOU WOULD THINK SO). And that felt good too.

Stage 3: Bootstrapping

For almost two years I was dedicated to solving 3rd world poverty by working at Wave. That didn’t work out, and I found myself with the even more daunting goal of preventing existential risk, with no idea how. So while I still think existential risk is the most important thing, I took a step back to work on the biggest problem I could think of that still felt like interfacing-with-high-friction-reality. 

That turned out to be homelessness. At a very object level, homeless people are easy to help. I could give them food, or a blanket, or tampons, and causally improve their life. Now that is not calculating the counterfactuals or the long term, which is important to do eventually, but I had to get the ground level right first.

I set a couple of rules for myself, but the main one was I couldn’t cherry pick. I had to search out information on what the problems were and take what came to me, and if that meant messy crazy intransigent homeless people, so be it. Luckily that doesn’t seem to be what has happened: the homeless people I have the most access to are friends and friends of friends, who are the high functioning end of homeless. I have made efforts to reach out to less privileged homeless people, but I am not good with strangers under the best of circumstances and my large extrovert friend is taking his sweet time getting back to California. But doing uncomfortable things that bring me more information was the whole point, so I don’t think I can get out of it.

 

Stage 4: Helping the Homeless

This is what I’ve done so far:

Talked to People in my Social Circle who have been Homeless

This went great, they were super informative, and also had the easiest kind of homelessness to solve. Based on my first conversation I got really excited about trying to convince the rental scooter/bike places to offer free minutes to homeless people. Based on my second conversation I gave up on that because multiple services already offer a discount program (which I had looked for, but not hard enough).

My second conversation also gave me the idea to start a homelessness wiki. Unfortunately this has been done lots of times, poorly. I was confident I could build something that was an improvement over nothing, but not over the three or four existing databases. Another mediocre database just contributes to misinformation and the lack of initiative in resources to keep their entries up to date, so I dropped this too.

It also led to an idea I have yet to find a reason not to do: a homelessness quickstart guide, to orient people who are suddenly homeless. It probably won’t contain a ton of novel information, but having it all in one place will conserve executive function at a stressful time. I have looked and not found anything like this online (the “guides to homelessness” are aimed at long term street people,

Talking to Ray

To avoid cherry picking, I went to talk to the nearest homeless person I could find. This being Berkeley, I had to walk a whole block to find Ray living in a tent on a sidewalk corner. I lucked out and he was friendly, sane, and some kind of unofficial local homeless organizer. The conversation got boring and was hard to extract myself from, but not necessarily more so than other conversations with strangers.  He was happy to share what kind of things people need, which contained a few surprises for me. My intention is to talk to him every few weeks, either when I run into him in the course of my day or have something to give to him.

Volunteering at ShelterTech

ShelterTech is one of the many resource databases that is participating in a trial to share one common database across multiple services. They let you volunteer for a single night (as opposed to 1degree.org, which wants a minimum 130 hour commitment), so I gave it a shot. From this I learned that either my tolerance for open offices dropped even further, or WeWork is especially bad.

Mobile Sandwich Distribution

My aunt’s church makes bagged lunches and distributes them twice a week. I was hoping this would lead to talking to homeless people so I could figure out their needs. I’ve been out twice so far, and my lack of skill at talking to strangers is striking again. Writing this out is making me realize that even if I come up with a plan like the quickstart guide that could let me escape talking to people, I still have to.

I got in an argument with another volunteer about housing regulations.

r/Homeless

This was much easier to use, I learned quite a bit that can go into the quick start guide and expect to explicitly ask for help at some point in the future.

Invisible People Videos

This is a video series consisting of ~10 minute interviews with homeless people the creator meets. They are focused on humanizing the homeless and making the point that this could happen to anyone, and spent 0 seconds talking about their bottlenecks. I think they achieve what the creator wanted but were not helpful for my purposes.

 

 

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